Here we are encroaching on a brand new year. New Year’s Eve celebrations are a significant part of holiday celebrating with some people more excited about the stroke of midnight on January 1st than their previous holiday’s rituals. On New Year’s Eve you can actually feel the buzz of excited energy. It’s all around you, even when you turn on the TV. Look at all those people huddled up in Time Square, packed in like sardines. To me it looks absolutely torturous, yet no one looks as if they’re suffering, they actually look elated. Of course, they may have some liquid cheer to help a little, but the overall excitement is internal. So why all the fuss, about a holiday, that merely celebrates starting a new calendar?
I notice the excitement comes not from the holiday itself, but what it represents, the NEW – a fresh start, the unlimited possibilities of what you can accomplish and have in your life, the breaking of bad habits, the total transformation of you as a person, and the opportunity for attaining your wildest dreams. On the night of December 31st we wipe our slate clean, and begin fresh on January 1st. Beginnings are extremely powerful and empowering; you can re-set the course of your life.
So what happened when you get back to December 31st, and your life hasn’t changed in the way you envisioned last New Year’s Eve? Many blow it off to unresolved resolutions, being too busy, not having the right opportunities, or just that they made unrealistic goals. We often place the blame for our lackluster goal achievement on outside circumstances, but the reality is WE are the reason we didn’t achieve our goals.
It sounds a bit harsh, but imagine that there are no goals too big for you, that you truly can achieve the things you want in this life. All you have to do is change your thinking. We are all completely capable of having it all, but then those thoughts creep in – the thoughts of fear, doubt, and just not deserving to have it all. What makes you so special that you get to have the life of your dreams? YOU, that’s what makes you so special. So what can you do this year to start achieving your dreams?
1. Stifle those negative, doubting internal thoughts that like to creep into our minds.
Quieting those negative thoughts can be challenging, but start by replacing every negative thought with a positive one. It may feel forced and artificial at first, but after a while you will begin to believe the nice things you are saying about yourself.
2. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Sorry, but making changes in your life do require a bit of work, and the toughest part of this work is getting out of your comfort zone. I know we work so hard to get in that zone, but finding ways to get out of that zone even with little acts on a daily basis will open you up to experiencing new opportunities and achievements.
3. Be grateful
Practicing gratitude is so powerful in so many ways, but especially when you are achieving new goals in your life. It’s so easy to see what you haven’t accomplished, and forget how far you have come. Use daily gratitude to reflect on all of the amazing things you have done.
4.You are not alone
Find someone to hold you accountable. It’s not as easy to blow things off when someone is checking on you. Some people enjoy working with family and friends, but others prefer to work with an impartial person, in that case consider a health coach. Health Coaches are a viable part of health and lifestyle care, with professionals such as Andrew Weil, MD praising the benefits of working with them. They work with you individually or in groups to help you find clarity in your life and goals, nurture you towards the goals you set, and hold you accountable in achieving them.
So this year, as we approach the New Year, we have some tools in hand. I wish you the best in achieving the life of your dreams, because you absolutely deserve it.