Just in time for February’s celebration of love, we take a look at your first love – YOU! If you feel like you’ve lost that loving feeling, here are some ways to rekindle your love affair with yourself.
1. Compliment yourself daily
At the beginning of your day, when you look in the mirror to brush your teeth or fix your hair, pay yourself a compliment.
I mean it. Tell yourself you look beautiful Inside & Out, that you are amazing, that your hair looks great today, anything complimentary that comes to mind.
This is one of those areas where I tell people “fake it ‘til you make it”. If you feel like a complete fraud doing this, don’t quit, keep at it until it does feel authentic. See? “fake it ‘til you make it”
If you can’t accept compliments from yourself, how can you accept compliments from others?
Why shouldn’t you be able to accept compliments from yourself or others? You are pretty amazing after all.
2. Do at least one thing each day just for you, that is NOT food related
Why not food related? I have noticed that so many of us have been conditioned to reward ourselves with sweets – great job, let’s go out for ice cream! In most cases, this contradicts your health and wellness goals, and instead of feeling rewarded you feel guilty, or self-defeated.
This is a goal I included on my vision board. Women tend to be busy taking care of everyone else that we forget ourselves. Many times you get to the end of the day realizing you haven’t done anything for yourself.
It can be as simple as giving yourself a lotion foot rub, or as elaborate as treating yourself to a spa day. Whether you take 5 min or 5 hours, breathe and enjoy the time.
3. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones
That voice in your head can be a real a-hole sometimes. No one should be spoken to that way, including you.
The first step is to catch those thoughts as soon as they bellow inside your mind, the next step is to negate them with a positive thought. This may require more of that “fake it ‘til you make it” attitude, but eventually you will feel authentic in this too. Once you start believing in how amazing you really are, look out world!
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
4. Make affirmation cards
When you are retaining new knowledge you use flash cards. Use that same practice to retain positive new habits for yourself.
Make “take-a-long” cards with affirmations you create for yourself. Draw or cut out inspirational pictures for them. They can be as simple or elaborate as you’d like. Crafters feel free to “go nuts” here.
When you need a pick-me-up, or just can’t think of a statement to negate that mean voice in your head, use your affirmation cards.
Get started right now on loving yourself. I wish you a day, month, year, and lifetime filled with love!