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THANK A HEALTH COACH

It’s Health Coach Week!

If you have been one of the privileged to receive direct services from a health coach, you probably know how invaluable they are.
Health coaches are experienced in guiding you through the endless diet and lifestyle plans out there to help you target the one that is right for you, and they are your accountability partner so you will achieve the success that often doesn’t come about when you are on your own and overwhelmed.

Many people believe they only need a health coach if they are in extremely poor health, or just don’t know how to take care of themselves, but the truth is health coaches are as unique as the situations that come up. Some help with children struggling to eat well or eat at all, some help physical imbalances, some help emotional imbalances, some educate, some give presentations, some start community projects, and the list goes on.

Unfortunately, the way of eating most of us learned growing up was not conducive for sustaining long term health. Our health care system has become backed into a corner of putting band aids on the leaks in a dam. We take a pill to correct an imbalance, which causes another imbalance, and another pill. Our children are the first generation of children predicted to have a shorter life span than their parents.

There is still a great deal of change that needs to happen.

Health coaches are the silent warriors working to make this change, often times behind the scenes. Some have pursued legislative change, some have pursued community change, and some educate the masses.
So even if you have not received health coaching directly, chances are you have been indirectly affected by a health coach. This is their week, give them a thanks.

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5 Ways to Simplify your Home and Life

“Simplify, Simplify, Simplify”
Henry David Thoreau said it, and he meant it, as he took off to live in an isolated cabin in the woods with barely any earthly possessions.
Now, nearly 200 years later, it still holds true. Even in this time of unlimited choices and advanced technology, the simplest answer is usually the best one for us. The simplest foods tend to be the healthiest, the simplest drinks tend to be the purest, the simplest medicines (herbs, nature) tend to be the most healing and least damaging, the simplest toys encourage more creativity, and the simplest lifestyles tend to be the most fulfilling.
One of the places where I like to encourage beginning simplification is the home. I work with so many Mom’s that feel overwhelmed with day to day life, and keeping up with the breakneck pace that their entire family is committed to. Life is busy, but when your home is busy too you can find yourself in constant overwhelm. Tackling your home gives a very visual sense of accomplishment and allows you to drop your shoulders and breathe fully.
When your home is organized and uncluttered, it actually drastically reduces your “to do” list. You don’t have to spend as much time managing your belongings, you can dedicate your time to things that are more important to you such as family time, and you still have everything you need. Accomplishing this actually reduces your “there’s not enough hours in the day” feelings. It creates a less over-stimulating environment for your children, and can actually improve their attention and focus. Not to mention, there is more family harmony when everyone feels at ease in their home sanctuary.
Sounds great and so simple, so what’s the catch?
Personally, I believe that clutter and crap have the same reproductive lifecycle as fleas, lice, and cockroaches. They’re always in abundance no matter how much we don’t want them. Every time I clear out my home, I seem to get an influx of well-meaning friends wanting to “hand down” their children’s toys, or the next holiday arrives and fills things up again. It’s especially challenging if you develop sentimental attachments to things (ahem).
So, how do we go about this? After many years working at this assignment, here are my recommendations.

Simplify Home Photo
1. Tackle one area at a time
You are more likely to be successful if you tackle small projects. It’s less overwhelming, and once completed you will be inspired and motivated to continue the work. I once did a drastic clean out of my clothes closet. After parting with 4 lawn and leaf bags (and this came from a small closet), I felt great. Getting ready every morning was quicker, putting laundry away was quicker, and I just felt at ease every time I approached my closet instead of tense. It gave me a huge push to tackle the next area of my home.

2. Do your toughest project last
If you have one area of your home that you know is really tough for you to clear out, do it last. Completing easier projects will give you a sense of accomplishment, and enjoying what you have done already will give you the momentum to clear out your toughest area. For me, clearing out the kid’s toys is the most difficult. I think I feel bad making those decisions for them, and am actually quite grateful that now my daughter is able to do it for herself. It actually took some training for her to be able to clear her space well after years of her Mom not being so great at it. She also feels amazing once it’s completed, and stops avoiding her room.

3. Don’t relocate your clutter
Moving clutter from a closet to the shed or storage is not clearing it out. If there is no way you are ever going to host that yard sale; then get it out. If there is no way you will ever get around to putting it on Craigslist; then get rid of it. If you want to make some money from your clothing and possessions, look for local consignment shops. Also, there are some really worthwhile donation centers such as women’s shelters in every community that can make you feel good about passing things on.

4. Accept that this isn’t a one-time deal
As I mentioned before, clutter reproduces quickly and silently. You can be living your happy life when all of a sudden you feel it weighing down on you again, eek! The good news is usually you get so used to enjoying your clear space, that it takes much less clutter to jump start you again.

5. Have fun with it
Re-imagine your space with simple, clean, family-friendly design projects to really feel good about all your hard work. And, don’t feel like you have to get rid of everything you love just because it’s not functional. Hold on to your favorite mementos as part of your design, and they will stand out more now that they aren’t hidden behind so much other stuff.
Enjoy your space, your family, and your life!

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The Best Gift a Mom Can Give

relaxing oilsI often prescribe self-care to Mom’s. I post Facebook statuses ad nauseam instructing women to nurture and love themselves. I have even jokingly gone so far as to make someone confirm that they would with a yes ma’am. Yet, I still get the glazed over, yeah sure okay response from most women. Then recently, my husband was looking at my Valentine’s Day posts urging women to remember to love themselves for the holiday. He said to me so simply and brilliantly “explain why”. Hand to forehead moment, of course.
So, I get it. I’m a mom and in the course of the day you have to meet a lot of people’s needs; children, spouse, boss, co-workers, teachers, and on and on. You are like a well-oiled machine; you have to be to get everything done and to fit it all in 24 hours. Not to mention, the world around you tends to be a little more expecting of moms to get it all done for their family and a little less forgiving if they miss a beat. Usually, there is very little time left over to indulge in luxuries for yourself, and if there is, you are so high-wired the best you can do is a glass of wine at the end of the day. Does this sound at all familiar?
I’m going to explain to you why it is not only essential for you to put yourself at the top of your priority list, but why it selfish not to.
1. You teach the world how to treat you
Translation, if you are constantly putting yourself last, what are you teaching those around you? If you get frustrated that your family isn’t treating you as you’d expect them to, it could be what you taught them. Part of our job as parents is teaching our children how to get along in this world. We should be teaching them to honor their mothers, as is done in many other cultures, not expecting them to appreciate martyrdom. No one does. By teaching our daughters to honor their mothers, we teach them to love and respect themselves as well, and we teach our sons to take care of themselves and one day love and respect their future partners. Children model our behavior, showing them to nurture themselves sets them up for a lifetime of good mental and physical health. It’s actually selfish not to give your children this gift.

2. A good habit does not just happen after 20 years of pushing it aside
I’ll take care of myself when the kids get older, or when the kids move out, or when the kids have kids. The start date continues to get pushed back until it’s just you. The kids have their own families taking up their time now. What now? Why do you think empty nest syndrome hits so hard? Everyone thinks it’s easy to just start taking care of themselves when they need to, that it will naturally kick in. When you have told your mind and body for 20 or more years to ignore doing something, it doesn’t just start doing it with the flip of a switch.

This is actually a scenario that has become really personal. A family member unexpectedly lost her husband a few years ago. All of her children were long gone with families of their own. They all wanted to support her in any way they could. She resisted all of their efforts not wanting to be a burden. At the time, this woman was beautiful, healthy, and vibrant. She did yoga and ate well. However, not being prepared for the scenario of suddenly being alone, and not knowing what to do, she chose to give up. This same woman, just three short years later, lays bed-ridden barely speaking, with a tube in her nose to provide sustenance despite no medical problems. I can’t even think about this without tearing up. Many will dismiss this as an extreme case that can’t happen to them, but the truth is she was no different than most of us and you have no idea how you will respond until you are in the situation. We have no guarantees in life, but by practicing to take care of ourselves even just a little each day, we prepare ourselves to take care of ourselves when we really need to. Imagine how difficult it would be for your family to see you deteriorate when it’s totally preventable. Preventing this is an amazing gift to give your family.

3. You are freakin’ worth it
Sorry I didn’t mean to get vulgar there ;-), but think about you and your life, and the person you are, and the kindness and love that you give. Don’t you deserve to feel as amazing as you make everyone else feel? Besides that, how can you keep giving love if you aren’t replenishing it from within? Depending on others to provide you with the love and nurturing you need can be a dangerous game, and lead you to co-dependent, unhealthy relationships. Start showing yourself the kindness and love you deserve.

Great I’m convinced, how do I do it? For everyone it will be a little different. If you are still working on feeling worthy, I want you to spend a couple of minutes every day in the mirror making eye contact with yourself. Tell yourself out loud: I love you, you are amazing, you deserve everything you desire from this life, or whatever else comes to mind, but you get the idea. It may feel awkward at first. Have you ever heard the saying “fake it ‘til you make it”? That’s what you are going to do here. Just do it until it feels authentic, and you can really look yourself in the eyes, say these beautiful things and mean it.
Also find moments in your every day, to capture for yourself. Sit and relax with a cup of tea, stop at a favorite store, read a chapter or article, get a massage, whatever gives you enjoyment. Even if it’s only a few minutes each day, eventually you will get so good at this that you will start pursuing hobbies and activities that fulfill you without feeling the least bit guilty about it. As we have already covered, you should not feel guilty, you should feel proud of the lesson you are teaching.
If you have trouble with this, don’t feel bad, its hard work to break a bad habit, and its hard work to start a good habit. Get an accountability partner, someone who will check in on your progress without judgment, or work with a holistic wellness coach (make sure they use a holistic approach). A well trained wellness coach or adviser is trained to support you without judgment, give you individualized progressive goals, and give you the tough love you need to hold you accountable so you are successful. No more excuses, no more saying I don’t have enough time. There is always enough time for what’s important. Make this important. Let me get a “yes ma’am”!
Good.
Gotta go, if you need me I’ll be in the mirror.

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Why You and Your Family Can Live the Life You Dream Of

About six years ago, I made a professional transition from helping people in the human services industry to helping people in the wellness industry. I did this for a few main reasons:
1. I could see that so many of the people with physical and mental health disabilities had them due to lifestyle issues that could have been tweaked many years before, and would have prevented the challenges they were now experiencing. For many of them, they were only in their 40’s when these issues caught up with them. There tends to be a misconception that you have to eat bird food, and do Crossfit every day to enjoy a long healthy life, so people just ignore it and deal with the consequences later. When in reality, you can make small changes that fit into your own life, and enjoy positive results. I want to help people change that misconception, and drastically improve their lives.
2. As a woman and mom, and someone that knows and works with so many women and moms, I have experienced and seen the all too common tendency to put ourselves last on our “to do lists”. Even mentioning it, I get a lot of “yeah, yeah, yeah, alright, sure, when I get a chance. I know and have seen how important this is to our physical and mental health. I want to show women why they should take care of themselves every day, and support them in creating this new habit.
3. I am a mom, and a children’s dance, yoga, and martial arts teacher, so basically I spend a whole lot of time with kids. I adore children, and love the way their minds work. They haven’t absorbed the message that they are limited, and they know they can accomplish whatever they want. However, I also see the effects that their foods and products have on their mind and behavior sometimes instantaneously. I also know the research that predicts our children to have a shorter life span than we will due to the health challenges they are already starting to experience from their foods and products. I want to help children, and their families that support them, to give them a full, rich life they love.
4. Finally, I live in a beautiful country that in many areas has become discontent, unhappy, and even angry. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, the next time you are in a mega-store take a look around, or better yet look around in the parking lot. I have worked in residential communities for people with mental health issues, where we made simple changes like going for a walk once a week, and improving the quality of food, and have actually watched an entire community of people experience less symptoms from their mental health issues, improved moods, and dare I say happiness. We live in a time where there is a pill for everything, which leads to needing a pill for something else. We don’t need pills (for everything), we need community, we need lifestyle balance, we need real foods, and fresh air. I have seen these things work to help a small community, and I know they can help larger communities. I want to show people how to live the life they deserve, and realize that they really do deserve it.
So from that, was born Kalusion, an entire family walking the talk, and teaching you to do it too. If you agree with what we do, spread the word, or better yet contact us, we love this stuff

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