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My Revelation of Kindness to Me

Self reflection is a powerful thing, and this time my thoughts about something I already knew shifted a bit, and opened up a whole new belief for me

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Reclaim You!

Under that pile of “to do’s” and running around is an amazing woman waiting to be discovered. She’s YOU! She’s buried and screaming to be heard, to be recognized, to be appreciated, but somehow her needs keep getting pushed to the bottom of the pile. Let’s face it, that mountain of chores goes on endlessly, and she will never be freed unless some strategic effort is amassed.

Enter The Have It All method.  This 9 week virtual class and coaching method will lead you to your life’s cravings so you know where to focus your energy. That way you can stop trying to do it all, because you’re not supposed to. Instead use clarity and strategy to direct your energy at what matters most to you (ahem, Have It All).

I’m so grateful to be a witness to what woman have experienced from this program. It is truly transformational. Since I have seen what this method has done for others, I am so inspired to offer it to you. A new session begins for the birth of spring on March 21, and here are some of the goodies included:

9 weeks of virtual small group coaching guided by your energy centers to dig deeper and reveal your life’s cravings and reverse the blocks that are getting in the way of achieving them
Kalusion’s Chakra Flow movement video series to reveal and heal all the areas of your life while dancing and having fun. This is only available to participants of The Have It All Method
The Kalusion Cleanse to create a blank canvas to begin your work of art
Kalusion’s Tea Sampler Gift Set to indulge while you restore Health & Harmony

 

The cost of the entire 9 week program is $299.

I also, offer incentives in the form of value since I know that’s really important to me. So, if a friend or loved one registers with you, you will receive a $99 discount. If you refer someone to the program that registers, but you are not part of this session, I’d like to offer you a $50 referral thank you. Please be sure that the person you referred lets me know your name and email.

If any of this sounds good to you, find out more about The Have It All Method at www.kalusion.com

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Hump Day Harmony: The Chair

Hump Day Harmony is about giving inspiration to help you over whatever mountain is standing in the way of your Health & Harmony

 

I have an old chair that belonged to my great grandmother, and I absolutely love it. I also love how it allows me to reflect on the lives of two very different yet similar women when I think about the woman that sat in that chair about a century ago (my great grandmother), and the woman that sits in that chair now (me).

My great grandmother’s life was very different than mine in so many ways. She was so poised and polished beginning her day by dressing with hose on her legs and heels on her feet. Her hair was set perfectly, and her clothes were pressed and lovely. This was a practice she maintained into her 90’s. She was in charge of managing the household, yet many of the family’s needs were delivered directly to the door, such as milk, and meat. This left her with plenty of time to drive my grandmother and great aunt absolutely bonkers. It almost seems that life was not nearly as rushed for her when I compare it to my day to day life. Yet, she was burdened with expectations; expectations that came from society, and from herself. She felt a pressure to be sure that she managed herself and her family in a certain manner, and that was her sole purpose. Her passions were the silly activities of women with no real world value, and her contributions to society were not appreciated.

Fast forward 100 years, as I sit in my great-grandmother’s chair more than likely in a pair of yoga pants or jeans with the freedom to choose my impact on the world, and the satisfaction of knowing that I can invaluably contribute in a positive way. Yet, I also sit with the burden of expectations, though now the expectations seem to have grown. I am expected to work and contribute to this world or I have not done my part to further women; I am expected to be a devoted mother and wife, or I am failing our future and my responsibilities; and I am still expected to manage the household as my great-grandmother did – keep the refrigerator stocked, the plates full, the checkbook balanced, and the bank account abundant.

The one expectation that neither my great-grandmother nor I seem to have is an expectation to dedicate any time or thought to taking care of ourselves, and yet without devotion to ourselves how do we remain whole enough to fulfill all these expectations?

Perhaps you have felt the burden of expectations from time to time, or they are so subconscious that you haven’t even realized they were there. Even if you haven’t noticed them, you most likely have encountered someone willing to offer judgment based on these expectations. Moms that judge the mom on her phone at the playground, customers that judge the woman with the tantrumming child in the grocery store, co-workers that judge the mother that missed a deadline because her child was sick, and so on and so on. These judgments further ingrain the societal expectations into our own subconscious, that when we do exercise free-will, it’s hard to be clear if our choices belong to us or are the result of a burden we feel mandated to meet.

So in protest of the cultural pressure to be perfect, should we send our kids to school smelly, and stop paying the bills. That actually does sound kind of awesome, but may be a bit extreme for most of us. However, instead maybe we can let ourselves off the hook a little bit. Maybe it can be ok if you go get a well deserved massage after work, and your child misses one dance class; maybe it can be ok to schedule a “skip” day from work and school, and have fun with your family; maybe it can be ok that the only way you can take a call or get any work done is by letting your child run on the playground, and let the judgers judge?

Expectations, whether internal or external usually lead to disappointment, so can we agree to be ok with letting go of perfection, and embrace the joy in our lives?

I would love to hear your thoughts. Do you ever feel the pressure of expectations? Have you ever felt the freedom of letting them go?

 

For many of us these expectations are so ingrained in our subconscious. It makes sense when you think about the two women sitting in the chair 100 years apart feeling their burden. That’s why it can take some outside support, and learning how to turn off our thoughts to get to our real life’s cravings. If you are interested in receiving this type of support, The Have It All Method is a 9 week virtual coaching program that offers just that, and a new session begins March 21. To learn more visit www.kalusion.com

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Don’t Let March Happen to You

If you have ever spent any time at a fitness center, whether as a member or employee, you know the January rush of “resolutioners” each year that completely dissipates every March. By the time March arrives, life has started to interfere with your goals, or you pursued them so furiously that you burned yourself out, or even yet you were chasing the wrong goals to begin with.

I have noticed that when people choose a goal, they think they have picked something they really want. It’s usually in the form of less weight or more money. However, this is usually only scratching the surface, and more of a by-product of the true craving that’s lying deep inside of you.

When you are chasing hard after something that doesn’t truly resonate with you in the first place, it’s really difficult to not let life get in the way. I mean, why work so hard for something that you aren’t totally passionate about. This means, you haven’t been unsuccessful in achieving your goals, you just haven’t been chasing them.

I find that March is a perfect time to check in with your goals instead of chucking them. March brings the first day of spring, which brings new life, and another new beginning.

So, here are some questions to ask yourself as you re-evaluate your goals:

Why do I really want to achieve this goal? What am I really craving?

Can I chunk this goal into smaller steps?

How can I create accountability to achieve this goal?

What is working so far?

What isn’t working?

You have it in you to achieve everything you dream of. Sometimes you just need a little support along the way.

 

If you are interested in partnering with me to learn how to turn off your thoughts to find your life’s cravings, and holistically achieve them with loving accountability then reach out to me at kaluwa@kalusion.com or check out more information on The Have It All Method at www.kalusion.com

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Flawless Friday – Password Reset???

Flawless Friday is a day dedicated to reminding you that you are already amazing. You are the most absolutely perfect you in this very moment. So take a moment to appreciate you.

 

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Today’s suggestion for Flawless Friday is a password reset. Now, I realize that doesn’t sound real sexy, but bear with me for a moment, there is a method to my madness. Even if you allow your browser or devices to save many of your passwords, usually there are a couple that you make sure to keep under lock and key for security reasons, and find yourself using them on a fairly regular basis. So my suggestion is changing those to be a compliment to yourself or a mantra, basically something positive meant for you. I have to admit, I got this idea from my daughter. She made a password along the lines of IMAmazing, and every time she types in that password she grins and remembers how amazing she is. Of course, still keep your password secure and use those numbers and symbols, but make them for you. Little tweaks like a password reset are a great way to begin a reset of your mindset and life. It’s a small way to have a little reminder built into your day to allow you to appreciate all of your awesomeness.

 

If you would like support and even permission to unleash your awesomeness I invite you to take a look at The Have It All Method where you will get out from under the burden of you daily “To Do” list, and begin to fulfill your desires. Reset, Rejuvenate, and Receive! Watch the free webinar to learn more, or contact me with the form below.

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Replacing two little words can change your life

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When I teach dance, there is a strict rule in my class – never say “I can’t”.

At 3 or 4 years of age, little ones will explore and imitate movements and actions. They giggle happily, and if they don’t do it perfectly they giggle some more. Somewhere around 5 or 6, the dreaded “I can’t” begins to creep its way into their vocabulary. It hasn’t taken over yet, but it gives them some pause. At 8, “I can’t” is a dooming force that precedes almost everything new. As soon as something seems challenging, a child will exclaim “I can’t”. In my classes this is always met with a chorus of kids saying “oooooohhhhh” as if a bad word has been spoken, because it has. At this age, I have to offer coaching to get the child to truly give it a try. We replace “I can’t” with “I can do my best”, and remember that learning a new skill requires practice, so perfection is not expected.

Recently I taught a kids conditioning class where two teams of kids raced through an obstacle course to get to the soccer ball first and kick it through the cones. Sounded easy until I told them they had to do the whole course while balancing a bean bag on their heads. The 5-7 year old group was a little taken aback, but they went for it, and did a great job. The 8 and up age group immediately shut down, they didn’t think they could do it, and didn’t want to try. Some kids actually sat down and refused to participate. We went through with the activity as planned. The kids were dropping their bean bags constantly, and getting more and more frustrated. They were reinforcing their initial belief of “I can’t”. By the time everyone had their turn, most of the group was very upset and complaining about the activity. Once again, this age group required some coaching. We talked about replacing “I can’t” with “I can do my best”. Then we discussed the worst case scenario.

What is the worst thing that can happen? i-can

The bean bag will fall off my head.

What happens then?

Pick it up, and keep going.

Is this a big deal?

No.

Lastly, we talked about not taking ourselves so seriously. This is supposed to be fun, so let go, and have some fun. They decided to give it another chance. This time they really tried. The difference was amazing. They did such a better job, and they actually had fun.

We are programmed to avoid failure. It ensures the survival of our species. However, if we are not planning to out run a lion then this fear factor generally doesn’t serve our best interest, and actually prevents us from reaching our true potential.

Have you ever stopped yourself from giving it all before you even started? I know I have; many times. By breaking down blocks and beliefs buried deep down in my subconscious, I have been able to open myself to so many more opportunities. This summer when we had the opportunity to move our family to a new state, leave our community of 20 years, and start all over again my knee jerk reaction was a bit of a pull back – we can’t do that. Why can’t we do that? It will probably be hard. So? What worth having isn’t hard? So we went for it, and are so happy we did. Was it easy? No, but what worth having is? It took a lot of work to reset my mindset and subconscious beliefs to get to this point, but it sure is exciting and gratifying to fully live life.

Be on the lookout for your “I can’ts”. They come in many disguises “it’s not possible”, “I don’t know enough”, “limited resources”, and so on. Then begin to imagine what it would be like to be those kids with the bean bags. Replace “I can’t” with “I can do my best”. Conquer perfection paralysis by picking up that dropped bean bag, and keep going. Enjoy yourself and the moments, and don’t take yourself so seriously.

One of the kids in the class decided that she would dance around like a fluffy, pink unicorn on a rainbow cloud so that she didn’t take herself so seriously. That seems like sound advice to me, give it a try 🙂

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Who Says Women Can’t Have It All?

A Google search for “women CAN have it all” reveals a  multitude of results staring back at you that say “women CAN’T have it all”.

This is the message we have been given, often from a very early age along with other limiting messages that have prevented us from becoming our authentic selves. While these statements seem harmless, they shape our subconscious beliefs. Then when we try to accomplish the so-called impossible, that subconscious belief sabotages success, and provides you with a life experience that further fuels that negative subconscious belief. It becomes a vicious circle, and very difficult to break.

Once upon a time I received a new table. It had leaves that extended the size of the table, and I was told that both leaves had to be extended at the same time, that it was not possible to extend only one side. For years I used the table, and countless times I wished that I could extend only one side for the perfect size, but I tolerated the table either too big or too small until one day I extended only one leaf, and it worked. I couldn’t believe I had never even tried for all that time.

I realize the table is a pretty simple matter, but for me it represented so much more. How many times had I just accepted what I was told, and gave up? What other things had I not even tried?

You can’t do the work you love, otherwise it would be called play.

Having your own business means endless work hours with little rewards.

Dancing is a hobby, not employment.

You’re not cut-throat enough to be successful in business.

Life is hard.

I always had a tendency to speak my mind, yet I was very obedient. In my quest to constantly “do the right thing” I found myself not achieving the results I wanted. I thought for sure that I must need to work harder, and so I did. Yet still not getting those rewards. In fact now I was sacrificing my family time, which sort of defeated the purpose. I pursued training and coaching to be told that I was doing everything I should, and I should expect my success, but still it didn’t come. That’s when I started The Have It All Method ™. Of course, then it wasn’t wrapped up in a neat little package. Through exploration, I was able to identify very specific and effective techniques that allowed me to improve my health holistically, tackle fears and subconscious beliefs, and gain clarity on what I actually wanted instead of fulfilling expectations.

Since that time, I have accomplished things I never believed that I would. I fulfilled my childhood dream of becoming a dance instructor, I left the comfort of regular paychecks and benefits to have my own business, and I began a new chapter of my life by picking up and moving with my family to a new place that we had quietly yearned to go to for some time. At one time, I never would have grasped these opportunities when they presented themselves. I would have let them go, telling myself things like I don’t know enough, or it would be too difficult. Not to mention, I would not have realized how important these things were for me, yet I found myself fulfilling my dreams, having a family life, and dare I say doing well. I’m not suggesting that everyone run out to become a dance teacher, but lets find out what your true passion is and how to support it mind, body, and spirit.

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Is Willpower the Problem, or Is It Something Else?

Have you ever been in a scenario like this?

You set a goal to lose 20 lb (numbers may vary).  You are armed with the perfect diet this time.  Your mom’s friend’s aunt lost 150 lb on this diet of eating blueberry and kale smoothies all day and a sensible meal for dinner (diets may vary – the blueberry kale smoothie diet is not an actual diet).  You can’t go wrong this time, but somewhere along the way you fall off track, you feel ashamed and self-defeated.  Then you give up.

This is pretty common, but there’s something you should know.  Many people have a hard time giving up their favorite junk foods because the foods have been developed to trigger pleasure points in the brain.  Guess what else triggers pleasure points in the brain?  Caffeine, alcohol, nicotine, drugs.  Yes, addictive substances.  Guess what is added to these foods to trigger pleasure points?  Sugar!

Sugar is added to 80% of pre-packaged foods, and sugar is 8 times more addictive than cocaine.  So when that monster inside your head is screaming I need that doughnut at 4pm, it really thinks it does.  Breaking an addiction is extremely tough.  That’s why there is no shame in seeking outside support and accountability with a reputably trained health coach, or a dependable friend or family member to ensure your success.

I think everyone should be successful in achieving their health goals because something more devastating happens in the scenario in the beginning than a person not losing weight.  The real tragedy occurs when a person gives up on themselves.  They lose confidence, and don’t go after the things they really want in life feeling they don’t deserve it.  That should never happen because you deserve health and happiness unconditionally!