When the circus gets a baby elephant, they put enormous shackles on that it can’t get out of. As that elephant grows and grows, those shackles are useless to its physical strength, but the elephant doesn’t know that. The elephant has learned that it can’t escape them so it doesn’t even try. That elephant is imprisoned by its own limiting beliefs.
This is something I’ve been working on with myself A LOT. After a very long career of helping people in a non-profit human services setting to gain independence after realizing physical, mental health, and emotional “disabilities” I realized I could be of more value if I got to these people before so many of their issues became a reality. So many small shifts could prevent these huge problems, and I felt compelled (a calling) to provide this.
So I did it (with a little push from the universe). I began my business to provide health coaching and education to heal people’s lives. What I didn’t realize was that this would challenge me in a way I had never experienced before. I did not realize I had limiting beliefs about money and career that would make me spin around uselessly for quite some time.
I learned that if your thoughts and beliefs aren’t in alignment, you produce inconsistent action. So while I’m thinking “I will help people while earning an income with my own business”, my deep down belief (subconscious) was saying “Ha ha, loser! You can’t have financial security working for yourself AND you certainly can’t make money doing work you love. If we all did what we love, it would be called PLAY and not WORK”
So, it seemed my subconscious is sort of an a-hole. Great.
The other thing I learned is that when your thoughts (conscious) and beliefs (subconscious) are at war, the subconscious always wins (a-hole).
Then I started paying attention around me, and I saw mind prisons everywhere. When I teach kids to dance, they will try any move you demonstrate until around the age of 5. That’s when the dooming “I can’t” seems to dominate their every (lack of) effort. Not only that, but as soon as one child is exposed to that airborne “I can’t” the contagion spreads to them, and then they “can’t” either.
It’s in every part of our life, every problem we feel.
Health – Someone wants to have good health, but their belief is that their family has a long history of health problems (blood pressure, diabetes, etc) so they will have it too. With that mindset, every attempt that person makes to get healthy becomes sabotaged.
Love – unlucky in love, don’t deserve love
Finance – only the 1% can have an abundance of money, rich people are jerks
Self-care – it’s selfish to take time for yourself, mothers should sacrifice themselves for their family
The list goes on.
Another thing I learned is that these self-limiting beliefs were given to us usually in childhood from teachings we received, from media, and from our education system. They are buried so deep, that we often don’t even realize that they are there. I didn’t. It just seems that every time you make an effort it is met with failure.
It took tremendous work on my part to uncover my limiting beliefs. As a dancer and mover, that is my outlet for healing. Gabrielle Roth, founder of 5 Rhythms, said “to calm the mind, move the body”. So that’s what I did. I began dancing each of my chakras, massaging them, doing mantras, meditation. I expected to learn my root chakra was the one troubling me. Finances are a big part of feeling stable, and grounded, which is what the root chakra represents. However, as I moved along through the sacral chakra, then to the solar plexus chakra – WHOA, suddenly I had goose bumps and chills all over, and realized my struggle was more about feeling like I didn’t deserve success in my life. After clearing my mind through movement, I would journal. Sometimes I would journal with no topic – just free writing, other times I would write about a topic specific to the chakra. Every session revealed to me something new, something I had no idea was there.
Now I had found it! – My mind prison. But how do I break out? There was more work to be done. I had to change my subconscious. How in the world do you do that?
I had to start with managing my emotions. Stay out of the dark side, and have faith – faith that I am not alone, faith that I am secure, faith that I am looked after, faith that I will be saved from drowning. Basically, I was staying away from stress, doubt, worry, discouragement, and any other low vibration emotion. This was coupled with positive expectations, goal cards, mind movies, continued chakra dance, movement, and journaling. I got help and accountability from coaches, mentors, and my tribe. And, I still continue to invest in myself and do this work because I don’t accept that I should be limited.
All of this is actually what gave birth to The Have It All Method movement and coaching program. I had so many breakthroughs, realizations, epiphanies, tears, smiles, laughs,and healing moments to break my tiny little shackles that I wanted other people to find their freedom too. After all, the whole reason I started this journey was to help people.
What is your limiting belief?
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