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Breaking Out of My Mind Prison

When the circus gets a baby elephant, they put enormous shackles on that it can’t get out of. As that elephant grows and grows, those shackles are useless to its physical strength, but the elephant doesn’t know that. The elephant has learned that it can’t escape them so it doesn’t even try. That elephant is imprisoned by its own limiting beliefs.

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This is something I’ve been working on with myself A LOT. After a very long career of helping people in a non-profit human services setting to gain independence after realizing physical, mental health, and emotional “disabilities” I realized I could be of more value if I got to these people before so many of their issues became a reality. So many small shifts could prevent these huge problems, and I felt compelled (a calling) to provide this.

So I did it (with a little push from the universe). I began my business to provide health coaching and education to heal people’s lives. What I didn’t realize was that this would challenge me in a way I had never experienced before. I did not realize I had limiting beliefs about money and career that would make me spin around uselessly for quite some time.

I learned that if your thoughts and beliefs aren’t in alignment, you produce inconsistent action. So while I’m thinking “I will help people while earning an income with my own business”, my deep down belief (subconscious) was saying “Ha ha, loser! You can’t have financial security working for yourself AND you certainly can’t make money doing work you love. If we all did what we love, it would be called PLAY and not WORK”

So, it seemed my subconscious is sort of an a-hole. Great.

The other thing I learned is that when your thoughts (conscious) and beliefs (subconscious) are at war, the subconscious always wins (a-hole).

Then I started paying attention around me, and I saw mind prisons everywhere. When I teach kids to dance, they will try any move you demonstrate until around the age of 5. That’s when the dooming “I can’t” seems to dominate their every (lack of) effort. Not only that, but as soon as one child is exposed to that airborne “I can’t” the contagion spreads to them, and then they “can’t” either.

It’s in every part of our life, every problem we feel.

Health – Someone wants to have good health, but their belief is that their family has a long history of health problems (blood pressure, diabetes, etc) so they will have it too. With that mindset, every attempt that person makes to get healthy becomes sabotaged.

Love – unlucky in love, don’t deserve love

Finance – only the 1% can have an abundance of money, rich people are jerks

Self-care – it’s selfish to take time for yourself, mothers should sacrifice themselves for their family

The list goes on.

Another thing I learned is that these self-limiting beliefs were given to us usually in childhood from teachings we received, from media, and from our education system. They are buried so deep, that we often don’t even realize that they are there. I didn’t. It just seems that every time you make an effort it is met with failure.

It took tremendous work on my part to uncover my limiting beliefs. As a dancer and mover, that is my outlet for healing. Gabrielle Roth, founder of 5 Rhythms, said “to calm the mind, move the body”. So that’s what I did. I began dancing each of my chakras, massaging them, doing mantras, meditation. I expected to learn my root chakra was the one troubling me. Finances are a big part of feeling stable, and grounded, which is what the root chakra represents. However, as I moved along through the sacral chakra, then to the solar plexus chakra – WHOA, suddenly I had goose bumps and chills all over, and realized my struggle was more about feeling like I didn’t deserve success in my life. After clearing my mind through movement, I would journal. Sometimes I would journal with no topic – just free writing, other times I would write about a topic specific to the chakra. Every session revealed to me something new, something I had no idea was there.

Now I had found it! – My mind prison. But how do I break out? There was more work to be done. I had to change my subconscious. How in the world do you do that?freedom

I had to start with managing my emotions. Stay out of the dark side, and have faith – faith that I am not alone, faith that I am secure, faith that I am looked after, faith that I will be saved from drowning. Basically, I was staying away from stress, doubt, worry, discouragement, and any other low vibration emotion. This was coupled with positive expectations, goal cards, mind movies, continued chakra dance, movement, and journaling. I got help and accountability from coaches, mentors, and my tribe. And, I still continue to invest in myself and do this work because I don’t accept that I should be limited.

All of this is actually what gave birth to The Have It All Method movement and coaching program. I had so many breakthroughs, realizations, epiphanies, tears, smiles, laughs,and healing moments to break my tiny little shackles that I wanted other people to find their freedom too. After all, the whole reason I started this journey was to help people.

What is your limiting belief?

To learn more about making the shift from doing it all to HAVING IT ALL visit www.kalusion.com

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Cleaning & Clearing

I am still in the midst of a major spring cleaning of my home and myself. I have already donated about 5 garbage bags filled with things that I really don’t need at this time, passing them on to someone else that can really use them, and opening space in my life for what I need right now

I wasn’t always so good about clearing things out, and still work at it, as I have a tendency to create emotional attachments to things. My most obvious lesson came from a pair of pajama bottoms stowing away in my closet some time ago. They sat at the bottom of my drawer because I really didn’t like them, there was nothing wrong with them, I just didn’t like them. However, I refused to get rid of them, opting to keep them as a “just in case” pair of bottoms. Yet every time I would get to the bottom of the drawer and see those dang things peeking back at me, I’d grimace at them and throw in a load of laundry just to avoid them (which is really saying something). Finally, I said enough is enough, I don’t care if there’s nothing wrong with them, I’m getting rid of them. I’m not really a shopper, so to replace them brings thoughts of digging through racks of clothing, blah, but whatever, I wasn’t wearing them anyway. I kid you not, the next day I was walking through the store because I had to pick up something for my son, and as I walked by the women’s pajama department, an adorable pair of pajama bottoms screamed out at me “pick me” from their spot on the rack. I ran right over to them, grabbed them, and was on my way. There was no miserable shopping and digging for a new pair, and I wear them all the time, I love them and how comfy they are. It was as if, I couldn’t have them until I made room for them. While I know pajama bottoms are not exactly spiritual enlightenment, they were definitely a lesson towards my growth.

What are you holding onto that is blocking you from what you really want?

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THANK A HEALTH COACH

It’s Health Coach Week!

If you have been one of the privileged to receive direct services from a health coach, you probably know how invaluable they are.
Health coaches are experienced in guiding you through the endless diet and lifestyle plans out there to help you target the one that is right for you, and they are your accountability partner so you will achieve the success that often doesn’t come about when you are on your own and overwhelmed.

Many people believe they only need a health coach if they are in extremely poor health, or just don’t know how to take care of themselves, but the truth is health coaches are as unique as the situations that come up. Some help with children struggling to eat well or eat at all, some help physical imbalances, some help emotional imbalances, some educate, some give presentations, some start community projects, and the list goes on.

Unfortunately, the way of eating most of us learned growing up was not conducive for sustaining long term health. Our health care system has become backed into a corner of putting band aids on the leaks in a dam. We take a pill to correct an imbalance, which causes another imbalance, and another pill. Our children are the first generation of children predicted to have a shorter life span than their parents.

There is still a great deal of change that needs to happen.

Health coaches are the silent warriors working to make this change, often times behind the scenes. Some have pursued legislative change, some have pursued community change, and some educate the masses.
So even if you have not received health coaching directly, chances are you have been indirectly affected by a health coach. This is their week, give them a thanks.

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Kalusion Joyful Holiday

The holidays are a time of Joy, but let’s face it they can also be a time of stress.  We often have more rushing around to do, we may get less sleep, and sometimes we find ourselves in company that ..er.. let’s just say maybe we don’t want to be with.

Joyful Holiday is an aromatic blend to keep you peaceful and calm, yet uplifted and joyful, so you can truly enjoy your holiday, and the days surrounding it.  It’s also a great gift, as it comes in it’s own little gift bag.

This gift set includes 2 oz. of each Joyful Holiday Bath Gel, Bath Oil, and Dead Sea Bath Salt.

Enjoy this special set for a limited time. Just like Santa, shortly after the holidays it will be gone. Find it on Etsy!

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