Every year, summer blind sides me with it. Then next thing I know it’s time for fall activities again.
Busy is not ideal. It keeps you in fight or flight mode, which leads to stress, anxiety, depression, adrenal fatigue, and all kinds of subsequent health problems.
The first step is awareness, so you can create boundaries around your time. I, for instance, will go back to not scheduling meetings during family time. Our family time tends to be early in the day since we homeschool, so it’s easy to break this boundary. I have to be strong, but flexible, and forgiving of myself.
Do you feel like you’re “to do” list is getting longer, even though you’re busy all the time?
We’re all guilty from time to time, but if we become aware that we’re doing it, then we can stop it.
When you are constantly saying or feeling like “I should be doing …” you create stress and overwhelm in your body, which over time will lead to anxiety or depression.
A great way to stop shoulding all over yourself is to have a plan. Create time strategies by prioritizing your values, so you feel like you should be doing exactly what you’re doing.
I can tell you that it’s a lifesaver, and something that someone gifted me when I was in tears from overwhelm. So, I decided to pay it forward. You can get the tools free at www.imperfectlyamazing.comalong with a free meditation to get you centered before you get started.
You may have noticed I’ve been quiet lately. If you follow me on social media, you probably saw that I succumbed to a nasty virus.
I’m actually just starting to poke my head out from under this horrid thing, and since it lasted so long it gave me time to think.
I realized how much I dislike getting sick (obviously), but for another reason. I realized that it almost feels like I’ve failed. I’m a health coach, I shouldn’t be getting sick, and if I do, at the very least I should be able to bounce right back. Right?
Obviously, my analytical brain realizes this is nonsense, but my emotional brain eats it up, and sort of nags at me.
I know I’m not the only one that does this. You feel defeated for something that was out of your control in the first place, or don’t try something because of the possible uncontrollable result.
Can you think of one of these scenarios in your life?
Where are you expecting yourself to be perfect?
Then one person commented on my status “Dentists get cavities”
Of course dentists get cavities. They’re not superhuman. Would you stop going to your dentist if they have ever had a cavity?
So from here on out, whenever you expect yourself to be perfect, remember that dentists get cavities, and carie (haha) on with your imperfectly amazing self!
When I was a senior in high school, we had to choose an author to do a report on. This report was due at the end of the year, so the intention was to spend your entire senior year researching this person, and reading their work. It was almost like a high school thesis.
I really had no idea who I wanted to spend an entire year of my life researching, and didn’t have a lot of time to make my choice. I looked up some quick descriptions, and paired that with some gut instinct to make my choice – Henry David Thoreau.
Henry David Thoreau was most well known for going off grid to live in the woods at Walden Pond, which was also the setting of his very famous book. His reason was to live his life deliberately.
Do you live life deliberately?
I have so much more appreciation for this now, even though I did think it was pretty cool waaaaaay back when I was in high school. Sometimes life can feel very reactive, even when we are making the effort to be proactive.
His famous quote that always stuck with me is “Life is frittered away with detail, simplify, simplify”
While I don’t know about going totally off grid, I do appreciate the healing effects of stepping out into nature. Not only for the stress relief of unplugging, and breathing some fresh air, but also for the simplicity of it all. The “weeds” growing all around you with the amazing power to improve your health. The uneven terrain giving abundant opportunity for functional and green fitness. It’s so simple, yet we’ve made it so complicated.
I’d like to spend some attention on getting back to basics in this overly complicated world, and embrace the simplicity. I want to explore simplifying health and harmony.
Loving your life mate is fulfilling and frustrating! Opening yourself up to be vulnerable is uncomfortable, even scary. That vulnerability can bring you closer to someone than you ever thought possible, but it can also do the opposite if ego jumps in. Watch the video to find out how to get out of gridlock and grow as a pair!
Next time conflict arises, what will you contribute?
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