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Taking Care of You First Will Actually Make Things Easier

We all know we’re supposed to nurture ourselves, and yet somehow we still end up putting ourselves last. Old beliefs rear their ugly heads, and cause us to self-sabotage. What if I told you, taking care of you first can actually make things easier and more harmonious.

Watch the video to learn more and hear my favorite real life example (not putting on the mask in the airplane first 😉

Set yourself up for nurturing success

  1. Journal or reflect to find out what’s blocking you from prioritizing yourself
  2. Identify activities or ways to nurture yourself – you may be surprised at how simple it can be.
  3. Schedule it! – if it’s not in your calendar, it doesn’t happen

What step will you take this week towards taking care of you, and how will it make your life easier? Share it.

 

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It’s Storytime – My Story of Depletion

Today I get personal with my story of depletion and why I am so passionate about helping women.

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Energy and Your Health Part 2

 

We move on to part 2, and explore this other piece of holistic health, and how it relates to you.

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Energy Part 2 Capture

Get caught up with past videos:

Intro

Part 1
https://www.youtube.com/edit?video_referrer=watch&video_id=jWU9B1k7ihM

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Hump Day Harmony: Shifting to Joy!

If you’ve been paying any attention to what I’m up to online lately, you may be a little sick of #mygift. Haha, that’s ok. If you haven’t been paying attention, let me give you a quick recap of the #mygift challenge.

#MyGift is the gift that you give to yourself. December can be hectic, and when things get busy we tend to put our own needs on the back burner. For the month of December I am challenging myself to post one gift I give myself each day. The gift can be as simple as accepting a compliment or an offer of help.

The holidays tend to be a mixed bag of emotions; joy, grief, loneliness, depression, excitement, disappointment, overwhelm, bliss, and the list goes on. Taking some time every single day to focus on only you is a great way to reset and rejuvenate yourself so you can be stronger for you or others who may need your support now. Remember, others are probably experiencing a roller coaster of emotions too.

It’s also another way to not just savor your holiday, but also your life! I see so many women who grumble “I have to ….” over every task on their holiday list. I don’t know about you, but I really want to have as much fun during the holidays as the people I am providing the fun for. Taking some time to put your focus on you will allow you to feel less like you’re doing everything for everyone else, and that you have this mountainous “To Do List” to chip away at until the holidays are over. It lets you shift from saying “I have to do something” to “I choose to do something”. This shift will come to play in all areas of your life, for example, instead of “I have to work a full time job” shift to “I choose to earn a regular pay check”. Embracing free will in your life will change your perception in almost everything you do, improve your outlook, and bring you joy!

Now, what are you giving yourself today?

 

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I Love Me! – 4 Ways to Rekindle Your Love Affair with Yourself

Just in time for February’s celebration of love, we take a look at your first love – YOU! If you feel like you’ve lost that loving feeling, here are some ways to rekindle your love affair with yourself.

Self-Love

1. Compliment yourself daily

At the beginning of your day, when you look in the mirror to brush your teeth or fix your hair, pay yourself a compliment.

I mean it. Tell yourself you look beautiful Inside & Out, that you are amazing, that your hair looks great today, anything complimentary that comes to mind.

This is one of those areas where I tell people “fake it ‘til you make it”. If you feel like a complete fraud doing this, don’t quit, keep at it until it does feel authentic. See? “fake it ‘til you make it”

If you can’t accept compliments from yourself, how can you accept compliments from others?
Why shouldn’t you be able to accept compliments from yourself or others? You are pretty amazing after all.

2. Do at least one thing each day just for you, that is NOT food related

Why not food related? I have noticed that so many of us have been conditioned to reward ourselves with sweets – great job, let’s go out for ice cream! In most cases, this contradicts your health and wellness goals, and instead of feeling rewarded you feel guilty, or self-defeated.

This is a goal I included on my vision board. Women tend to be busy taking care of everyone else that we forget ourselves. Many times you get to the end of the day realizing you haven’t done anything for yourself.

It can be as simple as giving yourself a lotion foot rub, or as elaborate as treating yourself to a spa day. Whether you take 5 min or 5 hours, breathe and enjoy the time.

3. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones

That voice in your head can be a real a-hole sometimes. No one should be spoken to that way, including you.

The first step is to catch those thoughts as soon as they bellow inside your mind, the next step is to negate them with a positive thought. This may require more of that “fake it ‘til you make it” attitude, but eventually you will feel authentic in this too. Once you start believing in how amazing you really are, look out world!

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

4. Make affirmation cards

When you are retaining new knowledge you use flash cards. Use that same practice to retain positive new habits for yourself.

Make “take-a-long” cards with affirmations you create for yourself. Draw or cut out inspirational pictures for them. They can be as simple or elaborate as you’d like. Crafters feel free to “go nuts” here.

When you need a pick-me-up, or just can’t think of a statement to negate that mean voice in your head, use your affirmation cards.

 

Get started right now on loving yourself. I wish you a day, month, year, and lifetime filled with love!

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The Best Gift a Mom Can Give

relaxing oilsI often prescribe self-care to Mom’s. I post Facebook statuses ad nauseam instructing women to nurture and love themselves. I have even jokingly gone so far as to make someone confirm that they would with a yes ma’am. Yet, I still get the glazed over, yeah sure okay response from most women. Then recently, my husband was looking at my Valentine’s Day posts urging women to remember to love themselves for the holiday. He said to me so simply and brilliantly “explain why”. Hand to forehead moment, of course.
So, I get it. I’m a mom and in the course of the day you have to meet a lot of people’s needs; children, spouse, boss, co-workers, teachers, and on and on. You are like a well-oiled machine; you have to be to get everything done and to fit it all in 24 hours. Not to mention, the world around you tends to be a little more expecting of moms to get it all done for their family and a little less forgiving if they miss a beat. Usually, there is very little time left over to indulge in luxuries for yourself, and if there is, you are so high-wired the best you can do is a glass of wine at the end of the day. Does this sound at all familiar?
I’m going to explain to you why it is not only essential for you to put yourself at the top of your priority list, but why it selfish not to.
1. You teach the world how to treat you
Translation, if you are constantly putting yourself last, what are you teaching those around you? If you get frustrated that your family isn’t treating you as you’d expect them to, it could be what you taught them. Part of our job as parents is teaching our children how to get along in this world. We should be teaching them to honor their mothers, as is done in many other cultures, not expecting them to appreciate martyrdom. No one does. By teaching our daughters to honor their mothers, we teach them to love and respect themselves as well, and we teach our sons to take care of themselves and one day love and respect their future partners. Children model our behavior, showing them to nurture themselves sets them up for a lifetime of good mental and physical health. It’s actually selfish not to give your children this gift.

2. A good habit does not just happen after 20 years of pushing it aside
I’ll take care of myself when the kids get older, or when the kids move out, or when the kids have kids. The start date continues to get pushed back until it’s just you. The kids have their own families taking up their time now. What now? Why do you think empty nest syndrome hits so hard? Everyone thinks it’s easy to just start taking care of themselves when they need to, that it will naturally kick in. When you have told your mind and body for 20 or more years to ignore doing something, it doesn’t just start doing it with the flip of a switch.

This is actually a scenario that has become really personal. A family member unexpectedly lost her husband a few years ago. All of her children were long gone with families of their own. They all wanted to support her in any way they could. She resisted all of their efforts not wanting to be a burden. At the time, this woman was beautiful, healthy, and vibrant. She did yoga and ate well. However, not being prepared for the scenario of suddenly being alone, and not knowing what to do, she chose to give up. This same woman, just three short years later, lays bed-ridden barely speaking, with a tube in her nose to provide sustenance despite no medical problems. I can’t even think about this without tearing up. Many will dismiss this as an extreme case that can’t happen to them, but the truth is she was no different than most of us and you have no idea how you will respond until you are in the situation. We have no guarantees in life, but by practicing to take care of ourselves even just a little each day, we prepare ourselves to take care of ourselves when we really need to. Imagine how difficult it would be for your family to see you deteriorate when it’s totally preventable. Preventing this is an amazing gift to give your family.

3. You are freakin’ worth it
Sorry I didn’t mean to get vulgar there ;-), but think about you and your life, and the person you are, and the kindness and love that you give. Don’t you deserve to feel as amazing as you make everyone else feel? Besides that, how can you keep giving love if you aren’t replenishing it from within? Depending on others to provide you with the love and nurturing you need can be a dangerous game, and lead you to co-dependent, unhealthy relationships. Start showing yourself the kindness and love you deserve.

Great I’m convinced, how do I do it? For everyone it will be a little different. If you are still working on feeling worthy, I want you to spend a couple of minutes every day in the mirror making eye contact with yourself. Tell yourself out loud: I love you, you are amazing, you deserve everything you desire from this life, or whatever else comes to mind, but you get the idea. It may feel awkward at first. Have you ever heard the saying “fake it ‘til you make it”? That’s what you are going to do here. Just do it until it feels authentic, and you can really look yourself in the eyes, say these beautiful things and mean it.
Also find moments in your every day, to capture for yourself. Sit and relax with a cup of tea, stop at a favorite store, read a chapter or article, get a massage, whatever gives you enjoyment. Even if it’s only a few minutes each day, eventually you will get so good at this that you will start pursuing hobbies and activities that fulfill you without feeling the least bit guilty about it. As we have already covered, you should not feel guilty, you should feel proud of the lesson you are teaching.
If you have trouble with this, don’t feel bad, its hard work to break a bad habit, and its hard work to start a good habit. Get an accountability partner, someone who will check in on your progress without judgment, or work with a holistic wellness coach (make sure they use a holistic approach). A well trained wellness coach or adviser is trained to support you without judgment, give you individualized progressive goals, and give you the tough love you need to hold you accountable so you are successful. No more excuses, no more saying I don’t have enough time. There is always enough time for what’s important. Make this important. Let me get a “yes ma’am”!
Good.
Gotta go, if you need me I’ll be in the mirror.

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