Have you ever felt like you are striving for something and not getting anywhere? Perhaps you just need to say yes.
It’s 2017! Have you made your vision board yet? More and more people are getting on board with visualizing their success to achieve goals, but is there really anything to it?
According to the Huffington Post
“…advice columnists tell us to “visualize success” or to “imagine our greatest possibilities”. While this is inspiring, is there actually a science behind this? The brief answer to this question is: yes. Although visualization was regarded as “new age hype” for many years, research has shown that there is a strong scientific basis for how and why visualization works. It is now a well-known fact that we stimulate the same brain regions when we visualize an action and when we actually perform that same action. For example, when you visualize lifting your right hand, it stimulates the same part of the brain that is activated when you actually lift your right hand. This shared area of brain activation when we imagine an action and perform it has been demonstrated extensively in the scientific literature.”
Simply put visualization is practicing an event before it even happens. Athletes have used this technique for years. When you let your mind run through the scenario of your success, you create a memory. So when you truly find yourself in the situation, your mind immediately knows what to do, and leads you to success.
So let’s get to it.
The first thing to get in order is what are your true goals? How do you get to your true goals, and past the sabotaging beliefs that block you from them? You have to clear your mind. However, for the great majority of us with a huge “to do list”, kids, and responsibilities it may not be effective to just stop what we’re doing and meditate. So to clear your mind, move your body. This is the foundation of yoga, which is a great way to accomplish this task. Another way is to go for a walk in a place that inspires you, and takes your mind off of your thoughts. For me, the best way is with Chakra Flow movement. I use music and movement that targets each of the chakras to clear out my mind, and immediately follow it with journaling on topic with the targeted chakra to get to my true desires about each of those areas of my life, and any blocks I may have. (Learn more about Chakras and the areas of your life they represent in my webinar)
This first step is so crucial. Sometimes our goals are buried under cultural or familial expectations. Or we make goals for things we think we want such as better health, weight loss, more money, etc. but that isn’t the true root of your goal, and without the true inspiration – your “big WHY”, it’s difficult to dedicate yourself to the work it really takes to accomplish your goals. This always reminds me of the women I spoke with who wanted to lose 50 lbs by Valentine’s Day. Why 50 lbs? That was the last time she really felt good about herself? Why Valentine’s Day? She felt ready to be in a relationship again. Which meant her goal wasn’t to lose weight, it was to feel good about herself and get in a relationship again. Which goal do you think she’ll have better success in achieving? So you must take the time to get to your pure intentions.
Once you have that figured out, create a vision board or mind movie that represents those goals for you. Your vision board can be digital, and placed on your desktop, or you can cut and paste, and hang it on the wall where you will see it (by your bed is a great place so you see it as soon as you wake up, and before you go to bed). You can also make a mind movie with a slideshow of inspiring pictures, mantras, and music to watch at the beginning of your day. As far as I’m concerned, you can do all of the above, and completely surround yourself with inspiration. I also find that putting a picture of your “big WHY” on your board is a great motivator.
Be sure to stretch yourself with your goals. Last year, I achieved everything on my vision board by August, and I thought I had some lofty goals on there. You are your only limit, so reach for the stars.
Now we get down to work. Looking at those goals you have, decide how you will break them down into chunks. What do you want to accomplish each month in working towards those goals, each week, and each day? Make it concrete – use numbers, then track your numbers somewhere, such as your calendar, or in a spreadsheet.
One of the biggest ways to ensure you stay on track is with accountability. Last month, I wanted to dedicate myself to doing one thing for me per day, so I put it out there on social media to hold myself accountable, and I really did it, and am so glad I did. I really felt the difference that the simple act of taking care of me really made in my mood and focus on those hectic days. Share your goal with someone that will give you judgment free, but firm accountability. Or share it on the Kalusion Health & Harmony Facebook page for support.
Everything you dream of is inside of you ready to become, and you are the one that will make it happen. She believed she could, so she did!
Trust me, I know the pitfalls of going it alone. We may get there eventually, but it definitely takes a lot longer. If you want judgment free accountability and support in achieving your personal and professional goals, check out The Have It All Method, or contact me for a Clarity Huddle – a one to one phone call where we can talk about what you want to accomplish and find out if The Have It All Method is a good fit for making that happen. A group session for The Have It All Method is launching January 16, so move fast.
Here we are encroaching on a brand new year. New Year’s Eve celebrations are a significant part of holiday celebrating with some people more excited about the stroke of midnight on January 1st than their previous holiday’s rituals. On New Year’s Eve you can actually feel the buzz of excited energy. It’s all around you, even when you turn on the TV. Look at all those people huddled up in Time Square, packed in like sardines. To me it looks absolutely torturous, yet no one looks as if they’re suffering, they actually look elated. Of course, they may have some liquid cheer to help a little, but the overall excitement is internal. So why all the fuss, about a holiday, that merely celebrates starting a new calendar?
I notice the excitement comes not from the holiday itself, but what it represents, the NEW – a fresh start, the unlimited possibilities of what you can accomplish and have in your life, the breaking of bad habits, the total transformation of you as a person, and the opportunity for attaining your wildest dreams. On the night of December 31st we wipe our slate clean, and begin fresh on January 1st. Beginnings are extremely powerful and empowering; you can re-set the course of your life.
So what happened when you get back to December 31st, and your life hasn’t changed in the way you envisioned last New Year’s Eve? Many blow it off to unresolved resolutions, being too busy, not having the right opportunities, or just that they made unrealistic goals. We often place the blame for our lackluster goal achievement on outside circumstances, but the reality is WE are the reason we didn’t achieve our goals.
It sounds a bit harsh, but imagine that there are no goals too big for you, that you truly can achieve the things you want in this life. All you have to do is change your thinking. We are all completely capable of having it all, but then those thoughts creep in – the thoughts of fear, doubt, and just not deserving to have it all. What makes you so special that you get to have the life of your dreams? YOU, that’s what makes you so special. So what can you do this year to start achieving your dreams?
1. Stifle those negative, doubting internal thoughts that like to creep into our minds.
Quieting those negative thoughts can be challenging, but start by replacing every negative thought with a positive one. It may feel forced and artificial at first, but after a while you will begin to believe the nice things you are saying about yourself.
2. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Sorry, but making changes in your life do require a bit of work, and the toughest part of this work is getting out of your comfort zone. I know we work so hard to get in that zone, but finding ways to get out of that zone even with little acts on a daily basis will open you up to experiencing new opportunities and achievements.
3. Be grateful
Practicing gratitude is so powerful in so many ways, but especially when you are achieving new goals in your life. It’s so easy to see what you haven’t accomplished, and forget how far you have come. Use daily gratitude to reflect on all of the amazing things you have done.
4.You are not alone
Find someone to hold you accountable. It’s not as easy to blow things off when someone is checking on you. Some people enjoy working with family and friends, but others prefer to work with an impartial person, in that case consider a health coach. Health Coaches are a viable part of health and lifestyle care, with professionals such as Andrew Weil, MD praising the benefits of working with them. They work with you individually or in groups to help you find clarity in your life and goals, nurture you towards the goals you set, and hold you accountable in achieving them.
So this year, as we approach the New Year, we have some tools in hand. I wish you the best in achieving the life of your dreams, because you absolutely deserve it.