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It’s Storytime – My Story of Depletion

Today I get personal with my story of depletion and why I am so passionate about helping women.

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Happy Memorial Life!

I hope you enjoyed your Memorial Day!

Memorial Day is a time of remembrance and gratitude. We remember those that have made the ultimate sacrifice while in service. Their sacrifice may have been made for their immediate family, or their larger family – their community or country. We hold gratitude in our hearts for their sacrifice and service. This gratitude transcends political views, and we are able to focus on individuals.

This holiday is a gift to the memory of our past service people, their families, and to us. Practicing gratitude and remembrance expands our mindset and growth. To fully embrace this gift, practice remembrance and gratitude in your own life, and more than one or two days a year.

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Dedicate time to remembering with gratitude your past relationships, endeavors, people in your life that have moved on, careers, embarrassing moments, wins…. the good, the bad, the ugly. All of those experiences make up the fabric of you. Let go of shame, and embrace the lesson. Let go of not enough, and love the path. Let go of perfect, and live authentic. Let go, and love.

Remember your life with gratitude, and live imperfectly amazing!

Now, I hope you enjoy your Memorial Life!

 

Be Amazing,

Kaluwa

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Reclaim You!

Under that pile of “to do’s” and running around is an amazing woman waiting to be discovered. She’s YOU! She’s buried and screaming to be heard, to be recognized, to be appreciated, but somehow her needs keep getting pushed to the bottom of the pile. Let’s face it, that mountain of chores goes on endlessly, and she will never be freed unless some strategic effort is amassed.

Enter The Have It All method.  This 9 week virtual class and coaching method will lead you to your life’s cravings so you know where to focus your energy. That way you can stop trying to do it all, because you’re not supposed to. Instead use clarity and strategy to direct your energy at what matters most to you (ahem, Have It All).

I’m so grateful to be a witness to what woman have experienced from this program. It is truly transformational. Since I have seen what this method has done for others, I am so inspired to offer it to you. A new session begins for the birth of spring on March 21, and here are some of the goodies included:

9 weeks of virtual small group coaching guided by your energy centers to dig deeper and reveal your life’s cravings and reverse the blocks that are getting in the way of achieving them
Kalusion’s Chakra Flow movement video series to reveal and heal all the areas of your life while dancing and having fun. This is only available to participants of The Have It All Method
The Kalusion Cleanse to create a blank canvas to begin your work of art
Kalusion’s Tea Sampler Gift Set to indulge while you restore Health & Harmony

 

The cost of the entire 9 week program is $299.

I also, offer incentives in the form of value since I know that’s really important to me. So, if a friend or loved one registers with you, you will receive a $99 discount. If you refer someone to the program that registers, but you are not part of this session, I’d like to offer you a $50 referral thank you. Please be sure that the person you referred lets me know your name and email.

If any of this sounds good to you, find out more about The Have It All Method at www.kalusion.com

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Hump Day Harmony: The Chair

Hump Day Harmony is about giving inspiration to help you over whatever mountain is standing in the way of your Health & Harmony

 

I have an old chair that belonged to my great grandmother, and I absolutely love it. I also love how it allows me to reflect on the lives of two very different yet similar women when I think about the woman that sat in that chair about a century ago (my great grandmother), and the woman that sits in that chair now (me).

My great grandmother’s life was very different than mine in so many ways. She was so poised and polished beginning her day by dressing with hose on her legs and heels on her feet. Her hair was set perfectly, and her clothes were pressed and lovely. This was a practice she maintained into her 90’s. She was in charge of managing the household, yet many of the family’s needs were delivered directly to the door, such as milk, and meat. This left her with plenty of time to drive my grandmother and great aunt absolutely bonkers. It almost seems that life was not nearly as rushed for her when I compare it to my day to day life. Yet, she was burdened with expectations; expectations that came from society, and from herself. She felt a pressure to be sure that she managed herself and her family in a certain manner, and that was her sole purpose. Her passions were the silly activities of women with no real world value, and her contributions to society were not appreciated.

Fast forward 100 years, as I sit in my great-grandmother’s chair more than likely in a pair of yoga pants or jeans with the freedom to choose my impact on the world, and the satisfaction of knowing that I can invaluably contribute in a positive way. Yet, I also sit with the burden of expectations, though now the expectations seem to have grown. I am expected to work and contribute to this world or I have not done my part to further women; I am expected to be a devoted mother and wife, or I am failing our future and my responsibilities; and I am still expected to manage the household as my great-grandmother did – keep the refrigerator stocked, the plates full, the checkbook balanced, and the bank account abundant.

The one expectation that neither my great-grandmother nor I seem to have is an expectation to dedicate any time or thought to taking care of ourselves, and yet without devotion to ourselves how do we remain whole enough to fulfill all these expectations?

Perhaps you have felt the burden of expectations from time to time, or they are so subconscious that you haven’t even realized they were there. Even if you haven’t noticed them, you most likely have encountered someone willing to offer judgment based on these expectations. Moms that judge the mom on her phone at the playground, customers that judge the woman with the tantrumming child in the grocery store, co-workers that judge the mother that missed a deadline because her child was sick, and so on and so on. These judgments further ingrain the societal expectations into our own subconscious, that when we do exercise free-will, it’s hard to be clear if our choices belong to us or are the result of a burden we feel mandated to meet.

So in protest of the cultural pressure to be perfect, should we send our kids to school smelly, and stop paying the bills. That actually does sound kind of awesome, but may be a bit extreme for most of us. However, instead maybe we can let ourselves off the hook a little bit. Maybe it can be ok if you go get a well deserved massage after work, and your child misses one dance class; maybe it can be ok to schedule a “skip” day from work and school, and have fun with your family; maybe it can be ok that the only way you can take a call or get any work done is by letting your child run on the playground, and let the judgers judge?

Expectations, whether internal or external usually lead to disappointment, so can we agree to be ok with letting go of perfection, and embrace the joy in our lives?

I would love to hear your thoughts. Do you ever feel the pressure of expectations? Have you ever felt the freedom of letting them go?

 

For many of us these expectations are so ingrained in our subconscious. It makes sense when you think about the two women sitting in the chair 100 years apart feeling their burden. That’s why it can take some outside support, and learning how to turn off our thoughts to get to our real life’s cravings. If you are interested in receiving this type of support, The Have It All Method is a 9 week virtual coaching program that offers just that, and a new session begins March 21. To learn more visit www.kalusion.com

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Don’t Let March Happen to You

If you have ever spent any time at a fitness center, whether as a member or employee, you know the January rush of “resolutioners” each year that completely dissipates every March. By the time March arrives, life has started to interfere with your goals, or you pursued them so furiously that you burned yourself out, or even yet you were chasing the wrong goals to begin with.

I have noticed that when people choose a goal, they think they have picked something they really want. It’s usually in the form of less weight or more money. However, this is usually only scratching the surface, and more of a by-product of the true craving that’s lying deep inside of you.

When you are chasing hard after something that doesn’t truly resonate with you in the first place, it’s really difficult to not let life get in the way. I mean, why work so hard for something that you aren’t totally passionate about. This means, you haven’t been unsuccessful in achieving your goals, you just haven’t been chasing them.

I find that March is a perfect time to check in with your goals instead of chucking them. March brings the first day of spring, which brings new life, and another new beginning.

So, here are some questions to ask yourself as you re-evaluate your goals:

Why do I really want to achieve this goal? What am I really craving?

Can I chunk this goal into smaller steps?

How can I create accountability to achieve this goal?

What is working so far?

What isn’t working?

You have it in you to achieve everything you dream of. Sometimes you just need a little support along the way.

 

If you are interested in partnering with me to learn how to turn off your thoughts to find your life’s cravings, and holistically achieve them with loving accountability then reach out to me at kaluwa@kalusion.com or check out more information on The Have It All Method at www.kalusion.com

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Hump Day Harmony: Keep Your Cup Filled

Hump Day Harmony is about giving inspiration to help you over whatever mountain is standing in the way of your Health & Harmony

 

Today’s Hump Day Harmony is a break from the routine. Instead of a blog, I’ve decided to delight with a video, sort of like a show and tell. Without further ado…

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If you need help discovering your authentic goals, or just need permission to chase them, check out The Have It All Method at www.kalusion.com or contact me below.

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From the Heart

Happy February!

As our thoughts shift to love, it’s a great time to open up your heart chakra. This means unconditional love for you and your community.

As the heart chakra’s element is air, this is a perfect time to practice breathing. I know breathing is pretty automatic, but full belly breathing may require some practice. On your inhale breathe all the way to your belly letting it fill up with air, and on your exhale push the air from your belly letting it sink down again. This is a great way to take tension out of your shoulders, and reduce feelings of stress. While you are taking a moment for yourself, extend your arms out to your sides. Notice how they extend from your heart. Your arms and hands are extensions of your heart, so use them to wrap around yourself and give you a big hug, then go share one of those hugs with someone you love. Do it right now, I just did 🙂

The color associated with the heart chakra is green, and since you are what you eat, it’s time to eat your greens.

I hope you enjoy a day bursting with love this Valentine’s Day and every day!

Before I sign off, I want to let you know that The Have It All Method is starting a new group session on February 13. It is a 9 week group program that uses the energy centers to help you dig deep and find your authentic goals. I’ve learned it’s important to dig deep since many times the goal you think you want is just the surface, and when you go deeper and find your true desire it also fires your motivation and passion. This makes an enormous difference in your success.

This program is perfect for overwhelmed women feeling buried under their “To Do” lists. It’s a chance to connect with other high achieving women to RESET * REJUVENATE * and RECEIVE so you can make the shift from doing it all to HAVING IT ALL!

I would love for you to join me in the group. There is more information available on the website as well as a free webinar. Also, feel free to schedule a time to talk one on one with me to learn more and see if it’s the right fit for you. You can schedule here.

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Flawless Friday – Password Reset???

Flawless Friday is a day dedicated to reminding you that you are already amazing. You are the most absolutely perfect you in this very moment. So take a moment to appreciate you.

 

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Today’s suggestion for Flawless Friday is a password reset. Now, I realize that doesn’t sound real sexy, but bear with me for a moment, there is a method to my madness. Even if you allow your browser or devices to save many of your passwords, usually there are a couple that you make sure to keep under lock and key for security reasons, and find yourself using them on a fairly regular basis. So my suggestion is changing those to be a compliment to yourself or a mantra, basically something positive meant for you. I have to admit, I got this idea from my daughter. She made a password along the lines of IMAmazing, and every time she types in that password she grins and remembers how amazing she is. Of course, still keep your password secure and use those numbers and symbols, but make them for you. Little tweaks like a password reset are a great way to begin a reset of your mindset and life. It’s a small way to have a little reminder built into your day to allow you to appreciate all of your awesomeness.

 

If you would like support and even permission to unleash your awesomeness I invite you to take a look at The Have It All Method where you will get out from under the burden of you daily “To Do” list, and begin to fulfill your desires. Reset, Rejuvenate, and Receive! Watch the free webinar to learn more, or contact me with the form below.

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How to Create Vision to Your Goals – #MyVision

It’s 2017! Have you made your vision board yet? More and more people are getting on board with visualizing their success to achieve goals, but is there really anything to it?

According to the Huffington Post

“…advice columnists tell us to “visualize success” or to “imagine our greatest possibilities”. While this is inspiring, is there actually a science behind this? The brief answer to this question is: yes. Although visualization was regarded as “new age hype” for many years, research has shown that there is a strong scientific basis for how and why visualization works. It is now a well-known fact that we stimulate the same brain regions when we visualize an action and when we actually perform that same action. For example, when you visualize lifting your right hand, it stimulates the same part of the brain that is activated when you actually lift your right hand. This shared area of brain activation when we imagine an action and perform it has been demonstrated extensively in the scientific literature.”

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Simply put visualization is practicing an event before it even happens. Athletes have used this technique for years. When you let your mind run through the scenario of your success, you create a memory. So when you truly find yourself in the situation, your mind immediately knows what to do, and leads you to success.

So let’s get to it.

The first thing to get in order is what are your true goals? How do you get to your true goals, and past the sabotaging beliefs that block you from them? You have to clear your mind. However, for the great majority of us with a huge “to do list”, kids, and responsibilities it may not be effective to just stop what we’re doing and meditate. So to clear your mind, move your body. This is the foundation of yoga, which is a great way to accomplish this task. Another way is to go for a walk in a place that inspires you, and takes your mind off of your thoughts. For me, the best way is with Chakra Flow movement. I use music and movement that targets each of the chakras to clear out my mind, and immediately follow it with journaling on topic with the targeted chakra to get to my true desires about each of those areas of my life, and any blocks I may have. (Learn more about Chakras and the areas of your life they represent in my webinar)

This first step is so crucial. Sometimes our goals are buried under cultural or familial expectations. Or we make goals for things we think we want such as better health, weight loss, more money, etc. but that isn’t the true root of your goal, and without the true inspiration – your “big WHY”, it’s difficult to dedicate yourself to the work it really takes to accomplish your goals. This always reminds me of the women I spoke with who wanted to lose 50 lbs by Valentine’s Day. Why 50 lbs? That was the last time she really felt good about herself? Why Valentine’s Day? She felt ready to be in a relationship again. Which meant her goal wasn’t to lose weight, it was to feel good about herself and get in a relationship again. Which goal do you think she’ll have better success in achieving? So you must take the time to get to your pure intentions.

Once you have that figured out, create a vision board or mind movie that represents those goals for you. Your vision board can be digital, and placed on your desktop, or you can cut and paste, and hang it on the wall where you will see it (by your bed is a great place so you see it as soon as you wake up, and before you go to bed). You can also make a mind movie with a slideshow of inspiring pictures, mantras, and music to watch at the beginning of your day. As far as I’m concerned, you can do all of the above, and completely surround yourself with inspiration. I also find that putting a picture of your “big WHY” on your board is a great motivator.

Be sure to stretch yourself with your goals. Last year, I achieved everything on my vision board by August, and I thought I had some lofty goals on there. You are your only limit, so reach for the stars.

Now we get down to work. Looking at those goals you have, decide how you will break them down into chunks. What do you want to accomplish each month in working towards those goals, each week, and each day? Make it concrete – use numbers, then track your numbers somewhere, such as your calendar, or in a spreadsheet.

One of the biggest ways to ensure you stay on track is with accountability. Last month, I wanted to dedicate myself to doing one thing for me per day, so I put it out there on social media to hold myself accountable, and I really did it, and am so glad I did. I really felt the difference that the simple act of taking care of me really made in my mood and focus on those hectic days. Share your goal with someone that will give you judgment free, but firm accountability. Or share it on the Kalusion Health & Harmony Facebook page for support.

Everything you dream of is inside of you ready to become, and you are the one that will make it happen. She believed she could, so she did!

 

Trust me, I know the pitfalls of going it alone. We may get there eventually, but it definitely takes a lot longer. If you want judgment free accountability and support in achieving your personal and professional goals, check out The Have It All Method, or contact me for a Clarity Huddle – a one to one phone call where we can talk about what you want to accomplish and find out if The Have It All Method is a good fit for making that happen.  A group session for The Have It All Method is launching January 16, so move fast.

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Replacing two little words can change your life

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When I teach dance, there is a strict rule in my class – never say “I can’t”.

At 3 or 4 years of age, little ones will explore and imitate movements and actions. They giggle happily, and if they don’t do it perfectly they giggle some more. Somewhere around 5 or 6, the dreaded “I can’t” begins to creep its way into their vocabulary. It hasn’t taken over yet, but it gives them some pause. At 8, “I can’t” is a dooming force that precedes almost everything new. As soon as something seems challenging, a child will exclaim “I can’t”. In my classes this is always met with a chorus of kids saying “oooooohhhhh” as if a bad word has been spoken, because it has. At this age, I have to offer coaching to get the child to truly give it a try. We replace “I can’t” with “I can do my best”, and remember that learning a new skill requires practice, so perfection is not expected.

Recently I taught a kids conditioning class where two teams of kids raced through an obstacle course to get to the soccer ball first and kick it through the cones. Sounded easy until I told them they had to do the whole course while balancing a bean bag on their heads. The 5-7 year old group was a little taken aback, but they went for it, and did a great job. The 8 and up age group immediately shut down, they didn’t think they could do it, and didn’t want to try. Some kids actually sat down and refused to participate. We went through with the activity as planned. The kids were dropping their bean bags constantly, and getting more and more frustrated. They were reinforcing their initial belief of “I can’t”. By the time everyone had their turn, most of the group was very upset and complaining about the activity. Once again, this age group required some coaching. We talked about replacing “I can’t” with “I can do my best”. Then we discussed the worst case scenario.

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The bean bag will fall off my head.

What happens then?

Pick it up, and keep going.

Is this a big deal?

No.

Lastly, we talked about not taking ourselves so seriously. This is supposed to be fun, so let go, and have some fun. They decided to give it another chance. This time they really tried. The difference was amazing. They did such a better job, and they actually had fun.

We are programmed to avoid failure. It ensures the survival of our species. However, if we are not planning to out run a lion then this fear factor generally doesn’t serve our best interest, and actually prevents us from reaching our true potential.

Have you ever stopped yourself from giving it all before you even started? I know I have; many times. By breaking down blocks and beliefs buried deep down in my subconscious, I have been able to open myself to so many more opportunities. This summer when we had the opportunity to move our family to a new state, leave our community of 20 years, and start all over again my knee jerk reaction was a bit of a pull back – we can’t do that. Why can’t we do that? It will probably be hard. So? What worth having isn’t hard? So we went for it, and are so happy we did. Was it easy? No, but what worth having is? It took a lot of work to reset my mindset and subconscious beliefs to get to this point, but it sure is exciting and gratifying to fully live life.

Be on the lookout for your “I can’ts”. They come in many disguises “it’s not possible”, “I don’t know enough”, “limited resources”, and so on. Then begin to imagine what it would be like to be those kids with the bean bags. Replace “I can’t” with “I can do my best”. Conquer perfection paralysis by picking up that dropped bean bag, and keep going. Enjoy yourself and the moments, and don’t take yourself so seriously.

One of the kids in the class decided that she would dance around like a fluffy, pink unicorn on a rainbow cloud so that she didn’t take herself so seriously. That seems like sound advice to me, give it a try 🙂

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